Addiction

About a decade or so ago, addiction had a different meaning all together. It was always associated with something bad. Drugs, Cocaine, porn and a whole slew of other things that had grievous impacts on humans. Come 2000's and the things associated with addiction have changed completely. They don't have as grievous an impact as the aforementioned addictions but there are sizable repercussions none the less.

People these days are completely addicted to technology. They are addicted to such an extent that they tend to get restless in places without Wifi or even worse if God forbid they forget their cell phones at home before heading out. Memory has gone for a toss as no one remembers or even makes an attempt to remember phone numbers anymore. Simple calculations are difficult because we are so dependent on the calculator in the smart phones and so many other such tech dependencies. This technology addiction has also reached a stage where people are beginning to have withdrawal symptoms if taken away from technology.

Whats even worse is that most communication these days happens on Whatsapp or other messaging apps which has made face to face or even telephonic conversations awkward. Everything must've been discussed elaborately on whatsapp leaving very little else to actually talk about. People are physically present with each other but they are mentally absent scrolling through different social media apps looking at updates from strangers and people far away. Children are also introduced to technology so soon which in my opinion is a really really bad thing to do.

There seems to be some hope though. I noticed a new feature that was added to some frequently used apps on our phones. See for example the below two pictures from my phone about my YouTube and Instagram activity.

Apparently I spent an hour and 43 minutes on YouTube today and a total of 13 hours last week with an average daily usage of about an hour and 51 minutes.

Similarly I spend a daily average of just 37 minutes on Instagram which in my opinion is quite commendable. Not too shabby at all as some of my British friends might say.

I do not use Facebook so I don't have those statistics. Yes you read it right, I do not use Facebook. I have a profile but I do not login much.

Whats also interesting is that they have an option to set a daily reminder to put tabs on ourselves. I wonder how we could set a reasonable tab for ourselves and also what would actually happen after we reach that allotted time.  It is quite an interesting option. Need to give it a shot sometime.

We tend to grab for our phone at every given opportunity. At traffic signals, in toilets, in between conversations, while driving, just before going to bed, just after waking up, literally every single moment.

Google has also rolled out app time management controls which can be quite helpful. Read about it here.

I hope this new way of keeping track and limiting ourselves will enable us to get back into the real world.

Its really not a healthy direction in which technology is taking us. With the presence of AI increasing by the day, I dont think the day when computers will take over humans is too far away. I hope it never comes to that. 

Secret to being happy

I know the title is a bit tacky but I think its apt to what I am about to say below.

Life in general keeps kicking our butt all the time. Well at least that's the case for most of the people, unless you are filthy rich and have everything you want. You are usually working under a boss who is never really happy with you no matter how much effort you put in and while going on with the rigmarole of life, our only escape seems to be the world of social media (facebook, instagram, snapchat et all). Everyone does the methodical switching of different apps and scrolling through a few times and repeat it many times in the day only to end up a lot more frustrated than we actually are.

Facebook and for that matter even Instagram now a days has become a place to boast. Everyone seems to be having a better time than you, travelling, buying stuff and eventually they give you a constant feeling of inadequacy. A feeling that nothing interesting is happening in our lives. I've been the culprit and also the victim of this. I've been one of those who constantly posted about anything and everything I did and I have also been the victim of looking at other peoples posts and thinking that nothing interesting is happening in my life. I've had that uneasiness when I didn't get enough likes for my posts and went into useless self analysis about what might've been wrong with my post and all that. I'm sure a lot of people have been through it and must still be going through similar feelings.

Facebook had gone from a place to connect with old friends to a place to boast about anything and everything. I have a little more than a thousand friends on Facebook and if all of them were really "friends" every post I put should've ideally got at-least 500 likes which never really happens. That only means that the other so called friends are just there to snoop around to see what others are upto. It had become a sort of a authorized surveillance app.

I've had that feeling for a really long time and one fine day I had this amazing Eureka moment. I decided to stay away from Facebook for a month. I confess that it was a little difficult at first but as time passed, it became easier. I uninstalled the app from my phone which made it easier to not give into the temptation and over a period of time I noticed that I was much calmer. I stopped having the itch to click a pic of everything and post. Since I'm not looking at what other people are doing, I'm a lot more calm and best of all, my phone battery lasts much longer :) . I also noticed that I am more present in the moment rather than wanting to go live on Facebook or having to put up pics and thinking of fancy titles and hashtags.

Anyways all that aside, its been about 2 years since I've taken my hiatus from Facebook and I do not miss it one bit. I haven't deleted my profile as such but I do use it as a birthday reminder. Thankfully it doesn't need me to login and instead it just sends me a mail. The only social media app I use as of now is Instagram. I like this over other apps because you have the option to follow or unfollow people. You don't really have to unfriend anyone and that I feel is much better. Plus I use it only to promote my photography and Insta is an amazing way to get the reach provided we also use the right hashtags.

So, the gist of the story is this. We are usually unhappy when comparisons come into picture. The comparison between the haves and have nots and also between the pretty and the average. Facebook has inadvertently promoted this comparison which has lead to a lot of dissatisfaction and self loathing. I have kept away from it and I feel I am a much happier person. I don't feel the urge to post anything and neither to I feel bad for not getting a higher number of likes which unfortunately became the new sign of acceptance.

In conclusion, live and enjoy the moments, take pictures and look back on them instead of trying to be physically present and mentally absent. Disconnect to connect!

#Change, #Happiness, #Facebook